Last week, when I finally hit the “Publish” button on my post about how I believe your attitude influences the results you get in life, I’ve got to say that I was kind of proud of myself. Not so much because of the writing itself, rather because I felt like I had managed to really nail the message I wanted to put out there.
But then I got this “Oh, crap!” moment… Maybe you’ve experienced something like this for yourself in the past and you know first hand how it feels, but if not, please bear with me. As I was going over my work for the last time (although it was already too late, I know), I realized that I had missed a very important part of the subject…
Sure, your attitude is a big piece of the puzzle when it comes to the level of success you achieve, but so is the attitude of your peers.
Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are
Maybe you haven’t noticed already, but successful people always tend to hang out together, while unsuccessful folks seem to attract each other. And that’s just another example to prove how powerful our mind really is. So much so, that just like magnets, our minds are attracted to one another. But here’s the trick; we can only attract (and be attracted by) like-minded people.
Thus, it’s no surprise that we tend to become just like the ten people we spend the better part of our time with. In other words, if 90% of your friends are always in a negative mood, chances are that on the long run, they’ll drag you down with them. On the other way around, if most of your friends carry an uplifting attitude, you’ll probably find yourself inspired to get things done and see life from a positive angle.
Partner up with complementary people
It then becomes pretty obvious that you’ve got to be very careful when selecting who gets the privilege to be a part of what I call your “inner circle.” Now, I don’t mean this in an obnoxious way, of course—don’t use this to start acting like a jerk, because it’s clearly not the point I’m trying to make here.
Instead, I suggest you start looking at your inner circle and highlight what’s working and what could be improved. It doesn’t mean you should cut all ties with the friends and relatives that don’t share your vision, it doesn’t mean you have to stop loving them or caring for them. But for your own sake, perhaps you could try seeing them once a month instead of once a week; you get the point.
It simply means that you’re not on the same page anymore. And sometimes, relationship changes like these are required for us to move forward and reach a higher level of fulfillment—in all cases, keep in mind that they’re probably beneficial for both parties.
That said, I think you should always try your best to surround yourself with people that will help you rise, not hold you down.
Find yourself a good mentor
When you feel like you’ve taken care of all that, your next step is to find yourself a good mentor. So, what exactly is a mentor? To be perfectly honest, it depends. It depends on who you are, what you do, what goals you have; it basically all depends on you.
To me, a good mentor is someone that is in a position where they can provide you with some advice. It’s someone who knows how to make you think on another level; who’s capable of asking the right questions. I think a good mentor has to be an influencer, someone who’s “been there and done that,” if you will. And throughout my still short career, I’ve been fortunate enough to have a few great mentors myself—which I think is part of the reason why I’m in this position today.
Now, don’t get me wrong here; I’ve worked a lot to get there—I think I am the only one responsible for this. I made the calls, I stayed up late at night working on this very blog among several other things (including my books), I did all of that. But I’ll tell you what; it would probably have taken twice the time if it weren’t of the help and advice I got from my mentors.
That’s called smart work. There’s hard work, and then there’s smart work. Pick one.
Obviously, I would have a LOT more to say about mentors… Once you get me going with this, I’m unstoppable! And speaking of which, I’m in the process of writing a new ebook on the subject. It’s definitely going to be awesome—full of content and resources, I can promise you that!
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Talk to you soon!
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