Published by Matthew Gustin
2 years ago
You might be thinking by now, “What a stupid question, of course I know who I am. I know my name, my birth date, what I like, etc.” But are you sure about that? Successful people have a high sense of identity. They know what it means to know oneself in a different manner.
There is a huge misconception about our true identity. When asked about who they are, most people talk about their birth date, their names, where they were born and their families. But that isn’t what identity is about. It’s all about perception and choice. What do I mean by that? Your birth date, your name or the place where you were born, are all things that you can’t influence. These are all things that you have to accept and can’t change and above all they are external factors, which were imposed to you by life. If you think more and clearly about it, you’ll realize that the place where you were born, isn’t your identity at all, but just a circumstance you happened to be part of. Most successful people know that intuitively, and that’s why they don’t define their identities with the non changeable, external things. They rather focus on their own inner world.
You might be asking yourself now, “How do I profit from that? ” When you concentrate on your inner values, you’ll realize that you can change them the way you want. You have the choice to define which values match with you. To put it short, you are your own master and are able to decide what you want to be part of your identity and what not. People who define themselves by their circumstances, respectively the outer world, let unconsciously other people and their environment define their identities. Why it is like that? Because the outer world is already defined and given and you can hardly change it.
Your core is like a white canvas, that is waiting for you to draw on it. Unfortunately most people die without even drawing a single point in their canvas. They try to paint the canvas of others instead. Everything that you portray on your white space, defines your identity and ultimately who you are. That means you can be everything or nothing. Look up to people worth following, make them your idols, acquire the most positive features of their personality and create an identity to be proud of!